I have a few rules for writing:
1) Be honest.
2) Be vulnerable.
3) Get permission before I write about others.
4) Tell the truth in ways that help other people.
5) Only make myself look like an idiot- not others.
Yesterday, I broke rule number 3. Without even thinking about it.
I edited the post . Fortunately- my husband loves me enough to tell me when I go over the line. I didn’t get permission to share parts of HIS journey. #fail.
Here’s the thing- there is no guidebook for sharing your cancer journey. There can’t be. Everyone’s threshold for sharing is a little different. Instead of a guidebook- we need to rely on each other: To confront, to stretch, to learn, to grow and to move forward.
Why post this and not just edit the post and shut up about it?
Because this is something every couple deals with. Maybe not in a public forum like a blog- but in conversations- too. It’s about respecting each other’s boundaries.
Trust is a treasure….and it’s something we can damage when we talk/ share about things others feel uncomfortable with, or don’t give you permission to share.
So- this is me- apologizing to my husband for crossing that line…. and sharing with you- so you learn from my mistake. (what else is new? :P I’m here to serve:P)
Going forward- content like yesterday’s will be shared with my hubby prior to posting- because HIS feelings matter more than my sense of humor.
PS- just cause you laugh about it together…. doesn’t mean should laugh about it in public when you’re not together….