I can’t remember the last time I could hear the rain dropping. Today. I can. There are no video games to drown out it’s patter. There are no male voices of varied ages arguing, talking and laughing, it is quiet. Quiet enough to hear my tears drip through the waterproof mascara I’m wearing today. Drip- drip go the bittersweet tears of joy and sadness.

For the first time in years, everyone is off to school. One in college- one starting his senior year of high school.. and the youngest, his first day of second grade. As a previous homeschooler- it’s his first day of going to school, at all.  After a noisy morning of preparation, it is now, QUIET.

Questions roll like occasional thunder claps through my mind… “Are they ready? Will they adjust? “Are they: making friends, hungry, prepared?” “Have I done too much, or not enough?”

I let the questions roll by. They aren’t harmful.. just noise, echoes. The lightening has already struck. I’ve done what I can to prepared and equip them, I’ve made my decisions about what’s in their best interests and have released them into their futures, fortunately- God has already been there- and knows what is ahead.  Where I can’t be with them, to protect guide and direct, He will.    I’m good with that– He tends to know what’s right and how to make the best of what isn’t.

Dear Lord, Thank you for each teacher and professor  fellow student and friend you’ve brought into my boy’s lives, I thank you for the adventure each one is on, and the journey you are leading them on.  Be with them, guide and direct, but most of all- Lord, be wit h them- regardless of what happens.  I love you and trust you- amen.

Types of Mom I’ve been:

A Private school mom.

A Homeschool mom.

A Charter school Mom.

A public high school Mom.

A college mom.

Soon, I’ll add “public elementary school mom” to the list.

Schooling choice is a controversial topic and an extremely personal one.  But it’s one that’s close to every mother’s heart.

Here’s the thing:  I don’t believe in any ONE right answer.  I believe in finding the right answer for the each child at the time.  I believe in changing your choice if your child’s needs change. I believe the right answer for one child in a family may not be the right answer for another child in the same family.

This isn’t easy.  And I know- it isn’t an option for every family.

For us- it would be easier to make a blanket decision and stick to it… it would be easier to make the decision ONCE and not have to re-evaluate it on an ongoing basis.  But would that really be in my child’s best interest?

I don’t think so.  But how did I get here?

I have three very different children, each with a unique set of needs and a unique personality.   I’ve watched my children bloom in the right setting and shrivel in the wrong one.

I used to think ONLY Private school could be the answer for all kids.  And then I sent my kids to private school. By experience I know it was good for some- not so good for others.  For a while I thought that HOMESCHOOL was the only answer… and then I homeschooled and found out that it isn’t ALWAYS best for EVERY child.

Now.. I’m getting ready to send my youngest to public elementary school,something I’ve never done before. Some will question WHY.  Some will wonder what took me so long. Some will doubt my choice altogether.

Here is the answer:

This is the right answer for this child at this time.  Will it be the answer for ALL TIME?  I don’t know. We’ll keep evaluating and adapting to their needs. It’s been working so far.

Things I consider in schooling choice:

How can I most glorify God in my schooling choice?

Learning styles- is this schooling choice a good fit for this child’s learning style?

Unique needs (I place equal weight on advanced needs and special needs- can this schooling option meet this child’s academic needs?)

Social needs- can this choice meet my child’s social needs?

Family needs- Can this schooling choice enhance my families growth/ intimacy?

If you’re a mom making this type of decision.. Id love to hear what you’ve decided is best for your child/ children at this time.. and how you got there! Post away in the comments!

One request:  please be respectful of another mom’s choice.. this isn’t a place to criticize anothers decision- but to share how you’ve arrived at your own.. don’t make me bring out the mom- spatula and moderate comments! :)